I was scrolling through the many news highlights listed in yahoo’s home page when I came upon a headline stating, “Is it selfish to swear off having kids?” I quickly clicked on the link, curiously wondering what kind of story started this. The link lead me to photo and article that was most saddening and disturbing.
Time Magazine released it’s cover page for the month of August, stating:
The Childfree Life: When having it all means not having kids.
And this, my friends is what I found.
I scrolled down further, reading the article that accompanied this startling statement. I was saddened to find many comments and statements enjoying and reveling in a child-free life.
Some comments proclaimed that “it’s being unselfish to not have kids, look at what kids deal with today….it’s saving them from dealing with such horrible things.”
Another commented: “Some people shouldn’t have kids…I know parents who have kids who shouldn’t have, their terrible parents.”
And finally: “Couples can enjoy life without kids…Spend more time focusing on themselves, and doing things they couldn’t do.”
All these statements sound pretty selfish? Right?
I mean, I understand when some couples can’t have children. These couples are given the gift and privilege to adopt. But when a couple who has both the means, and “money,” decide to not have children for such reasons as “keeping them from living life, interfering with their life, and would cost too much-actually thinking that they are doing the better thing for the child by not bringing them into the world? Is absolutely ridiculous to me. Adam and Eve had children and they had nothing but the earth to live with!! In a world like we have today, having children has become a burden instead of a blessing. And to those who think they are bettering society by not having a child, they are dead wrong. You are depriving “society” of possibly the next hero, dreamer, believer, and even saint. Your child could be the one to change an entire world. Who knows, maybe your child would have been president!
You don’ know until you try. And as far as kids having “problems,” I’m not saying that they don’t exist, they do. But instead of avoiding them by not having kids, attack them from the inside by having kids. If you are a strong person, your kids will most likely be a lot like you.
And on the note about kids keeping a couple from “spending more time for themselves.” Than what is your spouse for? You married someone to be with forever and to share your life with! Time for oneself has become nonexistent. If you can share your life with one other person, is one, two, three, or maybe even four more lives going to really hinder your life? I don’t think they will. In the long run, I believe they will better it. If you believe having kids is holding you back, wouldn’t you say the same for your spouse? You argue that kids would get in the way of your life, but you choose to allow your spouse to be a part of your life? To me there is no difference.
I have never once heard a mother or father regret having children. Often times you will find those that regret not having children.
Yes, children can be frustrating at times, but when they look at you and smile, with those little round eyes, how could they not melt your heart away?
And every child is a blessing from God and deserves a chance at living life.
Who knows what they’d be like someday? For only God really does.
TheLovelyPrincess 